Can’t believe it’a already the 12th. I feel like I started this whole 14 days of February thing yesterday.
It also means we’re getting close to the middle of February… Wow this year is going by so fast. Scary.
But enough about that, time for thing #12 I think of when it comes to Valentine’s day:
Luckily, I have friends who don’t have a lot of Valentine’s day drama. Of course, this is not always the case.
It doesn’t help that those who are able to parade around with their relationships happily remind those who have failed relationships of times they miss and regret.
I’d like to clarify that this is very different from those who pretend they don’t care. These people do, and they outwardly admit it. That would be the reason for the drama. She did this, or he did that. I can’t believe that happened, and I remember last year when this was different. Blah blah blah. So many conflicts that could probably have been resolved or overcome if only people didn’t make it so dramatic.
It’s nice to be someone people can confide in, but it’s not so fun when people come to you whining about how much their life sucks (when it doesn’t) or how their boyfriend is a jerk, yet they were the ones dumped. Please stop thinking that one breakup or bad experience is the end of your will to find someone to love. The only thing it’s the end of is that relationship. You’re perfectly capable of finding someone else — someone new — to start a relationship.
Oh and please stop with the “it’s the end of the world” speeches. It really isn’t. It REALLY REALLY ISN’T.
Sigh well that was slightly depressing.
It’s not mean to offend anyone by the way. I understand that some people just need to vent or time to get over something. It’s natural. It’s just not something you should let ruin your whole day.
Buy some chocolates for yourself and have a nice day with friends instead!
3 days til Valentine’s day! Hope you all have something in mind or prepared if you have a special someone!
The next thing, however, has nothing to do with lovers. For the 11th thing we have:
For me, Valentine’s day is far from a romantic day. This year, I’m planning on baking some mini-cakes for my friends. In fact, I’m planning on doing that tomorrow! Yes your read that correctly: for my friends. That’s what I do: I have sweets to give friends on V-day.
It’s like how in elementary school you’d give valentine’s candy or those tiny cards to everyone in your class. You would make your little baggie with your name in crayon (or if you were a little older: sharpie/markers) and leave it on your desk. Then everyone would give out their candy or tiny cards (or those candies especially for V-Day with the card/note on the candy). After the distribution was over with, you’d peak in your bag and find all these little pieces of candy that weren’t just delicious, but also heart-warming. After all, someone gave you a Valentine’s day present! All these people thought of you!
That’s the feeling I try to recreate each year. Or at least, every few years. It really depends on time constraints, but whenever I can I bring candy or other treats to my friends and wish them a happy Valentine’s day. This year is chocolate cake with whipped cream filling hopefully. I say hopefully because I haven’t double checked the ingrediants for the filling…
But there will be cake!
Of course I don’t give it to EVERY friend of mine. That’d take way too much cake… I usually find a few of my closest ones and give it to them discretely. It’s not that I dont’ care for all of my friends or that I don’t have many it’s just… hard to bake for so many people…
But nevertheless, can’t wait to bake tomorrow!
So yeah, friendship. Valentine’s may be about love, but it doesn’t need to be the romantic kind. If you love your friends, that’s enough of a reason to do something special!
The next time you see your friends on Valentine’s day and have a… umm… Snickers in hand, put a little heart on it, give it to them, and say Happy Valentine’s day. It might not be much, but at least you show that you thought of them 🙂
Valentine’s day is Tuesday this year!
I say this year because I clearly remember it being on the weekend last year (please don’t check on this if I’m wrong…)
No, it’s not because I had a significant other. I just always feel like making chocolate cake right before or on Valentine’s day and I remember baking on the weekend last year.
So — continuing — it’s time for the 10th item on the list. Yet another thing I think of when it comes to V-day is:
Now I’m specifically talking about Kay’s Jewelers and not just any jewelry store.
I hate to admit it, but this would be due to the success of advertisement. You’ve all heard of that commercial, right? The one they roll right around Valentine’s day, or even any jewelry-giving time of the year? Heck I’m pretty sure they play it 24/7. It’s the one that goes “every kiss begins with k” with the whole k = Kay. It’s rather catchy, so I always get it stuck in my head rather quickly.
The worst part is I even know which piece of jewelry they display on Valentine’s day or, at least, the one I saw awhile ago. It’s the one that looks like a heart (what a surprise) and looks like this:
Yeah. I’m very aware of how sad this is. It’s also quite scary when you think about how much advertisements DO have an affect on you. Think about it: I may not be thinking of buying that piece or any piece of jewelry per say, but I now definitely know of Kay’s. So, if an occasion were to arise where I’d need jewelry like this, it’d probably be the first place I’d think of. Doesn’t help that the only other jewelry store I know of is Tiffany’s… Don’t judge…
So yeah. Kay’s. You know their advertisements are affective if they can get me to remember their advertisements, products, catchy tune AND get me to blog about them… It’s like they’ve gotten me to advertise for them!
They should pay me for this…
Day 9!!! Woot! Can’t believe I’ve actually kept this up. Not that this little random rant in the day isn’t fun (quite the contrary). It’s just that I’m not exactly in the “mode” or routine of blogging everyday, what with this being a young not-even-a-month-old blog and all.
And I digress…
Anyways! For today’s what I think of when it comes to Valentine’s day we have:
This was another obvious, yet well substantiated thing I associate with Valentine’s day. I mean… everything is red…
Actually, when did red become the iconic color of Valentine’s day. No, a better question would be when did red become iconic of romance? I understand that red is suppose to represent love and passion, but… why?
And does that necessarily mean that EVERYTHING needs to be red? I mean yeah red roses have special meaning attached to them and there’s the whole 11 red roses superstition, but what about those poor yellow roses? Or the lovely orange ones? How about the cute pink ones? What if you hate the color red? What do you do then?
Oh and about colors and roses, I’ve been wondering: did we ever get a blue/black rose? I know they tried it with tulips and the value attached to “broken” tulips, so what about roses? I mean injecting dye has been as an alternative, but of course that’s not the same as having a naturally blooming blue rose. With all the advancement in DNA research and genetic engineering, I’d have thought it wouldn’t be too hard to engineer a blue rose.
Then again, there are a lot of people opposed to genetic engineering in general… And this is going really off-topic…
But yeah, anyways, red. I swear there’s TOO much red on V-day. It’s like seeing blood everywhere… but in heart form.
Just kidding. It’s not that bad. Actually my favorite color is red. So I quite enjoy all the red. Although I could do without all the hearts…
So yeah disregarding my tangent, there you have it! Number nine!
That means just a few more days til the 14th! Almost there!
We’re officially more than halfway through now!
That also means Valentine’s day is drawing in closer!
So, let’s continue this little countdown of sorts (though it’s not REALLY a countdown… per say)
For number 8 we have:
Well this was another blatantly obvious one right? Most, or rather many, couples want their proposal night to be special — one of a kind. They want it to be that romantic evening to brag to their friends or share with their kids. It’s suppose to be a lasting memory even for non-hopeless-romantic types. The proposal day is not suppose to be one of those days that blend into the memories of the past: it’s suppose to stand out.
Thus, it’s obvious why proposals would be associated with Valentine’s day. It’s suppose to be a romantic day anyways, so going the extra mile and making it an extra-special day isn’t too difficult. People do romantic things on romantic days, so Valentine’s day (I suspect) would be a big day for moving a step forward in any relationship.
That being said, I feel like because it’s such a romantic day it’ll be almost too predictable to propose on Valentine’s day. Think about it — it’s such a romantic day that it could be overly obvious that it’s the big day. What if they expect it? It’s no fun if it’s not a surprise.
This might be media influence talking, but it’s so much more memorable, exciting and (I guess) romantic when it’s done unexpectedly. Of course, I speak from NO experience, just gut feeling (which at times can be questionable). It’s just the notion of such a special day could be more “fun” if you didn’t expect that day to be special at all. You wouldn’t be able to pull off the normal-day-turned-special feeling with the already special Valentine’s day.
So… do people actually propose on Valentine’s day? I mean the reverse can be said too: it’s so predictable that it becomes unpredictable. After all, you’d expect it, think too much about it, and then end up thinking that you’re just over-thinking. The possiblity becomes so obvious that you think it’s impossible for it to be true. Thus, it becomes an actual surprise. In that way, doesn’t that make Valentine’s day a pretty good day for proposals then?
Then we can go back around to saying because of that element, you’d end up predicting it…
It seems to be a never ending circle
Like the chicken and the egg
Except more romantic
Relationships are confusing…
Rather, being surprising is confusing…
Better stop over-thinking before I break something.
Well, til tomorrow
I’m writing this approximately 10 minutes after my interview with Yale.
I’m not here to vent or talk about how supposedly my chances of getting into said college have immensely increased *bragbragbrag* (not true by the way)
I’m just here to share my interview experience so that others can feel a bit better when they get that foreboding email in their inbox.
To give a bit of background, tonight’s interview with Yale was not my first. In fact, it was my last.
Over the past few months, I’ve had alumni interviews with 7 different colleges (including Yale). Although that sounds tedious and rather nerve-racking for those who cringe at the word “interview,” I’d like to say the contrary. It was actually an enlightening experience and one I would gladly repeat if more of my college alums offered interviews to me.
Don’t let what I said above mislead you. I am by no means an extroverted or charismatic person. I’ve never seen myself as an “extraordinary” person or one in a million, and, like many other seniors, I was terrified of interviews.
My very first interview was in November, and it seemed quite intimidating. I was going to my first college interview and with MIT no less (yes I’m aware it’s not an Ivy).
Being a newbie at any interviewing process, I was worried over how I looked, what I sounded like, and how I answered. I remember waiting in the cafe 10 minutes beforehand worrying if this would gravely effect my chances or if I could even find my interviewer.
However, over the course of my 1 hour interview I relaxed. I was surprised by how straightforward many of the questions were. My interviewer was by no means intimidating — in fact she was a pregnant grad student and about an inch shorter than me. I was able to just talk about my academic achievements and hobbies in a relaxed manner. By the end of the interview I felt a bit relieved: it was much better than I thought it would be.
I approached the next 6 interviews differently. In fact, looking back, I could have done better on my MIT interview. Why? Well:
Luckily for me, that was only Early Action interview: all my other interviews were for regular decision, meaning I had a few more months before fretting about those. So, I got all of my Regular decision apps done and then checked my inbox everyday.
Then, in early January, I was contacted by my 2nd and 3rd college back to back: Princeton and Brown. Though I had the experience of one interview under my belt, I was still very nervous. I looked on all sorts of websites on what questions they ask and what to expect only to realize the answers were either all the same or all varied. Some people told of the typical college interview questions while others told of their eccentric interviewers who asked random questions (like the cube of 7. Not joking).
From what I found I realized that I didn’t need to study. A few months of college essay writing had gotten me well acquainted with my goals, accomplishments, extracurricular actives and all other things an interview has. Any others that I couldn’t anticipate should be answered naturally: with an unscripted answer.
So, I didn’t prepare anything.
And it was a success.
I was still nervous — the interview was still a rather new thing for me — but I didn’t have to think “oh don’t forget to ask that question” or “I need to remember to mention this or that.” There was no extra thinking of overanalyzing the situation. Since they were all casual alum interviews, I treated it like I have having a conversation (a more formal one, granted).
I ended up feeling more confident about my answers. They were spontaneous, but genuine. I didn’t need to pretend I happened to think of something because I did. As a result, I had fun: I told a few jokes and had some laughs with my interviewers.
My Brown interview was a particularly great success. We started going on tangents about idealism in the local area as well as stereotyping and ideas about education’s value. The whole thing was very free-spirited and open. It was not even close to a Q&A session as one might imagine an interview to be.
In fact, I got so close to my Brown interviewer that I started emailing her rather regularly. We chat about random things and recently she has even offered to critique a scholarship essay of mine.
In the end, all of my interviews ended up this way.
I did not prepare anything other than inherent enthusiasm for the college.
There was really nothing to prepare.
I did this all til the very last minute of my Yale interview.
Which by the way, was in a similar format (for those of you interested):
I went to my interviewer’s house and we had a nice 30 minute chat.
He had no questions prepared and no information about me. Instead, we spent time talking about what I thought of the local area, what my interests are, what subjects I’m currently taking, what I feel is an “ideal day,” what I feel college will be like, and if I’ve been to New Haven before. (oh and of course questions!)
I guess what I’m trying to emphasis is that everybody makes it sound so formal and important when in reality it isn’t.
You’re having a conversation with someone who really loves the school you’re applying to. They’re not there to judge you, in fact they really can’t do much. Most don’t get any prior information about you. You’re application is finished and the most their interview write-up is add any further things you left out or can’t be expressed on paper about you that could possibly help in the tiniest way.
As my Brown interviewer said, unless I managed to burn her house down, there’s really nothing in her write-up alone that could possibility prevent me from getting in.
So, future or current interviewees, fear not the alumni interviews.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a backup school or an Ivy leaguer.
What’s most important in college interviews is:
1) Feeling comfortable just talking about things
2) Asking questions when you feel interested, but do not feel required to (I asked a lot because I wondered a lot)
3) Don’t over-prepare or stress out. It’ll probably show more than you want to
4) Have fun. Part of it is for you to get to know the school as well. (And trust me: these guys love talking about their experiences)
Oh and for those of you who have arranged an interview but are wondering “how am I going to recognize someone I’ve never seen before” don’t worry about it: you’ll meet them, no problem
It helps that you two are probably the only ones darting their heads back and forth.
It all works out.
Good luck everyone and remember, no matter where you end up it’s the college experience you’re applying for, and that’s something that no college interview can change.
The next one can totally be justified, at the very least by past experience.
I honestly don’t think you can prove me otherwise
Though please please PLEASE do if you can
I’d be ever so happy…
For number 7 we have:
A mega, super, ultra overload of romantic comedy movies or shows
Now don’t get me wrong: I actually do enjoy romantic comedy. It’s a fun way to pass the time and never gets heavy or deep (which can be good for days when you’re just not in the mood for anything like that).
However, I get annoyed at times with the predictable and singular nature of romantic comedies in general. I swear just by looking at the movie cover or the title I can tell you exactly what will happen. The synopsis isn’t a synopsis at all: it’s one giant spoiler since what happens next is way too obvious. They couldn’t have been more blunt about it… I don’t mind the predictability at times (and sometimes it’s what makes it lighthearted and fun), but once in a while I’d like to get genuinely surprised by what happens on the big screen (please!!!)
Which brings me to what happens on Valentine’s day. I swear, most TV channels and movie theaters are flooded with romantic comedies or anything close to mushy. Although it makes perfect sense to do so, it’s kinda annoying for those of us who want to watch a different genre. Not so much fun when you’re flipping through 10 different channels all with the same kind of movies…
Of course, that’s not to say that there isn’t a single channel that has something non-Valentine’s day (if that’s true for you, you probably have a really bad cable plan). Instead, I’m just pointing out how blatantly abundant this one genre is. It obviously makes sense (it would be weird and illogical to air, say, a bunch of horror movies on Valentine’s day), but it’s just a smidge annoying.
And something I think of when it comes to Februrary 14th
Hense its place on this list.
Will post again soon 😉